The problem of taking sh!t from others.
Do not expose your dirty laundry outside your home; keep your dirty laundry to yourself or confine it within the walls of your own home. Our problems, worries, fears, hopes, and dreams are intimate and unique to each of us, and they should remain as such. However, from a young age, we are conditioned to attach importance to the opinions and judgments of others. The moment we start caring, our lives become a display of signs of failure or collapse, like a building slowly decaying. Since our ambitions, dreams, and lives are linked to being “ourselves,” every decision we make has consequences. However, I am not very concerned about the outcome, as the outcome is not important in the end. What matters is that we live a life with a kind of freedom – a life with a kind of happiness instead of carrying the burden of guilt and worries wherever we go.
And people's opinions are our biggest concern... our greatest worries. My life began when I started learning that no one is as important to the extent that we are – why? Because when you look into them, you discover an important thing: everyone around you is only concerned about themselves to the extent that matches the amount of accumulated shit in their lives. Let me tell you what I mean. I mean that the amount of someone's happiness or sadness around you is measured by the amount of accumulated filth they can perceive or cannot perceive. I don't really know why there isn't a school that taught us this, or a family. I don't think it's a coincidence. It's because the world wants us to bear the greatest amount of filth possible without any reaction from us. Our reaction to the amount of accumulated filth is as follows:
You're selfish, nervous, sensitive, a butcher, or you don't care about your family, your parents, your work, or you don't have loyalty to your country, religion, group, tribe, or anything else:
The missing component in this equation is you. It's as if you're living a postponed life because postponing everything is the only thing we've learned, and it's as if we're guaranteed to be the same person tomorrow. Everyone around you wants to occupy the largest possible space without caring about the amount of space they're occupying, as if everyone is suffocating. And the biggest mistake is when you put on your oxygen mask!
By the way, you should not always remain a satisfied person 24/7 because your dissatisfaction with the normal situation is your grudge against everything or your idea of being alone for some time, which is a crime committed against humanity. It's normal to occupy the largest possible space wherever you are to a proportion that matches the world's satisfaction with you. But the world's satisfaction with you will not equal the amount of long-term happiness you will have. Being someone who looks at things from a short-term perspective will.
And your short-term freedom is short because your measure of yourself does not match society's satisfaction with you. The places & people that understood this are the only ones that were able to evolve or allowed their people to express the amount of space they need to occupy, away from anyone around them.
Okay, so what's the solution? The solution is not to care about what people are saying about us, not to care about what people think of us. Our creativity will not be born unless we break free from the womb of suffering, and that suffering will continue to haunt us as long as we think that people's perception of us is important. The freedom to be ourselves is the greatest gift we can give ourselves and the new generation. There are many mistakes happening, by God. Let us express ourselves freely or dream that we can become the person we wished to be five or ten years from today. The echoes of the past will forever reverberate as chaotic noise, and the pursuit of pleasing everyone is an unattainable goal that will never be realized.